Being a new mom is a lot of things: wonderful, daunting, exhilarating and exhausting. Often mom’s partner goes back to work after the first few weeks, so it can also be isolating. While husbands, parents and friends can be a great support system, no one understands what a new mom is going through like another new mom. Enter, the new mom friends.
It’s important to find other moms that you can talk to. It’s both fun and cathartic to swap stories about the joy of first smiles, the challenges and triumphs of breastfeeding, trade diaper change war stories and of course, talk about sleep.
Whether you and your BFF planned your pregnancies together or you don’t know a single other mama on the block, as a new mom you may be in search of more likeminded friends after your little one arrives. New mom seeking can be almost as awkward as dating, but it doesn’t have to be.
Do you take your babe on frequent walks? Strike up a conversation with the stroller next to you. See another bump in your Facebook newsfeed? Send her a message and grab coffee. Not sure where else to find other new mamas? Here are a few places to look:
Breastfeeding Support Groups: Check out your local La Leche League or join the “We’ve Got Your Back Babe Fitness Challenge” (benefitting Best for Babes Foundation, Breastfeeding USA and United States Lactation Consultants Association) to find likeminded nursing mamas. They may have great tips on new nursing positions and the hottest nursing wear from Leading Lady of course, but more importantly they can relate to your fantastic choice to breastfeed.
Meet Up: Mamas looking for coffee dates and playgroups may want to check out MeetUp, an online hub for activities divided by areas and interests. Especially if none of your other friends have babes the same age as yours, this is a great place to seek out local mommies.
Facebook: Can’t always make it to a weekly group, but still want to find mamas who can tell you which restaurants have the best changing stations and stroller parking? Search on Facebook for local moms groups by city or even neighborhood. Engage in a discussion online, post a question and get instantaneous feedback. The best part is that you can do it during those 3 a.m. nursing sessions.
Mommy networking: Everyone has a friend of a friend (or a friend of a friend of a friend) who is also new mom. Introduce yourself or ask your friends to set you up on mom dates. While it may be uncomfortable at first, you’ll soon be keeping an eye on each other’s babies so one of you can go to the bathroom with the door closed.
No matter where you find the other ladies with new babies, you’ll soon find yourself laughing and venting with someone who understands almost exactly what you’re going through. And your babies may be making friends for life too!